Small Habits can lead to BIG life changes.
Everybody wants to feel a little bit happier, but figuring out how is sometimes a bigger task than we bargain for, especially when life is so busy and putting joy on the to-do list seems out of the question. Luckily happy habits can be quite simple to integrate into your day. It just takes a little persistence.
So, what makes for a happy habit?
A straightforward definition would be any action that you can incorporate into your day that makes you feel good. It doesn’t have to be extraordinary. After all, think about all of the things that make you happy. They probably are small, personal moments: enjoying lunch in the park, reading a book before bed or the first bite of a home-cooked meal. In the grand scheme of things, they’re pretty simple.
Happy habits hit the spot in much the same way. They should be habits that feel good and probably don’t require a whole lot of effort. Happy habits are happy because you find some kind of pleasure in them.
How to find your happiness
Happiness is different for everybody — which is what makes these habits a bit more special. When you think about what kinds of tasks bring you joy, a few things might jump out at you (stretching in the morning or finding some device-free time during the day), but you may also have to dig a little deeper to find a more personal meaning of happiness. For example, making your bed might feel more like a chore than a happy habit, but the feeling of accomplishing something first thing in the morning is a good feeling! In a lot of ways, happy habits can feel like eating your vegetables. They might not be fun in the moment, but they pay off in the long run. They bring joy, even if the feeling is a bit delayed.
When choosing a happy habit to add to your daily routine, think of your “why.” What is it that you want to accomplish and how is this habit contributing to that? You might even surprise yourself with what you come up with. Sometimes the happiness is already there, and you just had to search a little to find it. For some, that could be an organized space and others it might mean finding time to be creative each day. However you do it, make sure you work to make the habit stick.
Creating the habit loop
Start small
We typically fail at creating new habits because we take too much on at once. The great thing about happy habits is that it doesn’t take a lot of effort to do something that makes you feel good. If exercising makes you feel good, but committing to a daily workout routine seems difficult, start by taking a walk every day. You’re more likely to do that and keep it going. Then, eventually, you can work your way up to working out three times a week and then daily.
Set a reminder
Remember that you have to start somewhere. As much as we would like good habits to come naturally, they usually don’t. Put a note in your planner or phone until the habit becomes a normal part of your day. On average it takes about two months to form a habit, so don’t feel defeated when it doesn’t stick. Even the smallest of habits that you’re likely to forget about during the day — such as practicing gratitude or offering a stranger a compliment — could use a reminder so that it’s fresh on your mind.
Get rid of friction
Try your best to overcome the things that get in the way of you and your happy habit. What are the barriers in your way and how can you shift them?
Reward yourself
Let’s face it: Habits are hard, even if they make us happy in the end. You might think that’s enough in itself to be rewarding, but it’s okay to acknowledge that doing something good for yourself needs a little praise once in a while. Whether you’re taking time to reflect on the progress you’re making or celebrate with a treat, make sure you pat yourself on the back. It’ll make it easier to keep going.
